Who am I?
Just a person who struggled (much like you I imagine if your web search led you here) with addiction for decades and turned my life, personal and professional relationships into a nuclear hot dumpster fire until I came to my senses.
I am not a self help guru. I don’t have all the answers, but maybe I can share some things you might find useful.
What is this site about?
Just a simple tool perhaps to keep you motivated, along with links to organizations and books that I found helpful. Most are recovery related, but a few are of a more psychological/spiritual bent. I’m not selling anything, but this site costs money to run so if you purchase something I recommend via the links at the top of the page, it lets me keep this going.
Where can I reach you?
I run a group called Sober Hiking on 3 social media platforms (Facebook, Eventbrite, and NextDoor). That is your best bet. If you’re in the tri-state area, I lead hikes periodically to demonstrate the woods are not just a place for hiding from the cops after getting messed up. I’d rather not put my contact info here as I want spammers to really have to work at ruining my day. ;)
When did you get sober?
I had my last drink on New Year’s Eve, 2021.
Why did you stop?
Because I finally convinced myself that alcohol did nothing I ever believed it did. To be honest, I always knew that, but I didn’t truly feel it until much later. As long as you still think alcohol (or your substance of choice) does anything positive at all for you, it requires willpower to resist it. And that is a war with yourself that is almost impossible to win long term.
When you decide it does nothing, you don’t need willpower to turn it down. It just becomes clear that it has nothing to offer. I know that answer sounds pathetically simple, but it really is.
As long as you believe being sober deprives you of something, you will always be white-knuckling your sobriety. But once you realize there’s nothing to lose, it stops being a struggle—it’s just freedom.
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